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Today's parents have the unhealthy habit of compulsively sharing every step of their children and on social media there is a riot of children of all ages carrying out the most common daily actions. They are certainly images that have always aroused feelings of tenderness and sympathy but with the advent of social media the very concept of intimacy and privacy has been distorted. But how all this affects the little ones? The experts of.
Meaning of nting
+parenting: it "nting"is an Anglicism that originates from (sharing) and parenting consists of social sharing of their children's lives, a real documentary of all their progress and development. The phenomenon is so widespread that the term officially entered the British Collins dictionary as early as 2022.
the dott.sa Rossella Valdré stresses that
the online overexposure of children is part of the contemporary attitude of parents towards young children, exalted as fetishes in a culture, ours, where few children are born, usually very expected and often with parents who are no longer young. Today the child is loaded with expectations, even before he is born, as never happened before: destiny seems already predetermined in the mind of the parents without waiting to meet the real needs of the child.
The risks in adolescence
Those who are now funny and sweet children, sources of joy and precious likes on social networks, in a few years will be teenagers, and then adults, and it is not certain that the publications made over the years by their parents are to their liking. Sharing photos creates a public digital archive with which the person concerned will have to deal in the future. His image will be bound to the images that her parents have decided to promote, a selection never approved and with which it is not certain that she will feel identified.
The children have always represented, for the psychoanalysis, for an prolongation of parental narcissism, a physiological phenomenon and within certain limits useful for the establishment of a good self-esteem in the child, but when this is excessive, the narcissism of the parent actually obscures the child, sees only himself and his own performance, and not the needs and real needs of the child.
adds Dr. Valdré.
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Children tend to repeat the habits of parents, for this reason it is important that the model is as attentive as possible to what it does.
Spending a lot of time using the phone and giving excessive importance to social networks, it is very likely that they generate the same interest in their children. But are we sure that we don't prefer our children to grow up playing with each other, running after a ball, reading a book or singing and dancing, without having to appear in front of a camera looking for approval and approval?
The development of the child's creativity, imagination and intelligence pass through direct experience, experimenting and discovering using the five senses is essential to ensure that they experience childhood as a phase of play and learning, and for the formation of future adult individuals.
Safety issues
Another important issue concerns the risk more and more widespread than identity theft, which will increase in the coming decades. The amount of information that is provided on the internet by users themselves is impressive, providing expert hackers with the essential elements to clone identities. Date of birth, photographic reportage from the first years of life that portrays the child and the places, making their habits available to anyone (where you go on vacation and how often, if you usually leave during the weekend, if you have a second or third house ...). All these superficially offered elements are invaluable data and can be used to steal identity and create clones.
Another extremely delicate aspect is that of porn linked to minors, a market that feeds itself largely, in spite of themselves, of images shared by the parents themselves.
Protecting your children from exposure to these risks is a must. In addition to the images stolen for these purposes, there is a real risk of giving information about the habits and places of their children, thus also exposing them to offline dangers (attention: knowing where they go to school, where they live and their hobbies, they turn into much more subjects easily primable).
