The rules for being a good mother

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THE RULES FOR BEING A GOOD MOM -



In the difficult and at the same time grateful task of being a mother, some

indication

on how to move is always welcome. We have collected some from the web

opinions and advice on how to be a good mother,

and below we publish a selection.

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DON'T TRY TO BE A PERFECT MOTHER-

Striving for perfection is never a good idea, as life is unpredictable and full of surprises. It is not possible to be perfect, even more so when you become a mother and life becomes even more messy and chaotic. It is necessary



get a reason

that the house will be messy, the fridge empty, and that dinner will be burning while the phone rings and the child screams loudly.

TEACH INDEPENDENCE TO YOUR CHILDREN-

Teach the child a

become self-sufficient

it should be a daily goal. It is a struggle, of course, but it will bear fruit when the little one no longer depends on you, at least for the most trivial things. It also seems that the sense of independence is very important psychologically for the child as well. The approach, of course, will have to be patient and gentle.

KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR-

The only way to deal with the huge change a child represents is to maintain a sense of humor. Laugh at yourself, at your partner, at the funny behavior of the child;

laugh

of long conversations that have as their main topic the correct defecation of the infant and related irritation to the lower back

TO KNOW MORE'

:

The Decalogue of the Good Mother

TEACH PARSIMONY-

Shopping and buying useless and expensive items shouldn't become a moment of entertainment, like "a trip to the mall". It is good to teach the child from an early age that

items must be purchased when you need them

, and it's a chore just like shopping. There are many ways to have fun that do not involve the accumulation of material and expensive goods.


REMAIN FAITHFUL TO YOURSELF-

It is wrong to give up your passions and interests once you become a mother. It is important that you find time for what you love to do, make a list of priorities (reading, work, play sports, have creative hobbies) and include them in your routine.

It is (much) easier said than done


, of course, but you have to make an effort to find time to pursue your interests even if you can spend much less time on them. If you take care of your needs, you will be a happier and better mom.

TRY TO BE PATIENT-

Children are notoriously unruly, loud, and messy. The commitment to them is total, and also the dedication, especially if at the umpteenth unjustified scream the couple sitting by you in the pizzeria asks the waiter for another table and looks at you as if you were the worst mother in the world. Bear in mind that you need to be very, very patient, and be able to get rid of the nervousness with a good deep breath.

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DEFINE YOUR ROLE AS A MOM-

The mother is the mother, not a friend, and this distinction is very difficult in our times, when obedience to parents is no longer a universally recognized duty and the model of the "democratic family" has definitively established itself. The children, however

they still need authority

of parents


, it is therefore good to set very precise limits in this sense.

DISCONNECT EVERYTHING

- With the new arrival, the mind is always on the run, caught between a thousand needs and new tasks. In all of this, it is necessary to take a few moments of relaxation to preserve one's sanity. A hot bath, an episode of your favorite TV show or pursuing your interests even a few times a week (see above) are small concessions you need in yourself.

And for you what is the

secret to being a good mother

?

THE DECALOGUE OF THE GOOD MOTHER

10 PHOTOS

The Decalogue of the Good Mother

Ten semi-serious tips for moms who aspire to perfection


Sources:

http://zenhabits.net/

http://www.parenting.com/

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