How to become a good father
A man who is about to become a father for the first time he is armed with good intentions to deal with colic and sleepless nights, but the relationship that is established with the newborn is also important. The dynamics of new families have changed the tasks that a father has to carry out. Today a good father tries to support and help his partner as much as possible and it is precisely by evaluating what the father must do after the birth of the child that we can seek first tips for becoming a good father.
I think it becomes what our father taught us in his down time, while he was not concerned with educating us. It is formed on scraps of wisdom. (Umberto Eco)
- Become the nappy expert
A newborn needs to change diapers very frequently. It is certainly a task that can become heavy, because the request for the change arrives at all hours. It is one of the few activities that the mother can delegate in the first months of the baby's life. Let the father offer to change as many diapers as possible: it will be a way to help mom and to start playing with your child and get to know each other better.
The father's wisdom is his greatest teaching for his children. (Democritus)Read also: From couple to family: the role of the father
- Learn to listen
A good father knows how to listen before judging and can start practicing right from the birth of the child. Babies express their emotions non-verbal and learning to interpret their needs well can build a good relationship between father and son.
A forgiving father is the perfect image of Divinity. (Simone de Beauvoir)
- Don't complain
The many commitments that overlap between work and family bring a sense of frustration that many people vent by complaining. Complaining about the commitment that children require leads to a less constructive attitude. It is better to arm yourself with a lot of patience, knowing that the period in which the children are most demanding will be short-lived.
Fathers must always give to be happy. Always giving, being a father lies in this. (Honoré de Balzac)
- Be generous with your time
Look for opportunities to care for the child. From the earliest days, the father can propose himself in the situations they require childcare. It will be a help for mom and a way to become a reference figure for the child. Some situations could be: bathing the baby, comforting the baby during colic, playing together on the bed, following the baby in the first attempts to crawl, establishing the ritual of the bedtime story.
I cannot indicate a childish need of equal intensity to the need that children have to be protected by their father. (Sigmund Freud)
- Learn to trust
When the child grows up, the father figure will be important for his self-esteem if he sees him as a reference person, knowing that he can always have trust and support from him, he will feel safe and protected.